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Ex-boyfriend at my wedding

DREAMER  My ex-boyfriend came back from the past. When I saw him, I told him “I am married now”.  He said, “Yes, I know. I was at your wedding at the church.” And then he started showing me pictures he took at the church of our wedding day.

my future

DREAMOPHEUS  Firstly, congratulations on your marriage. Secondly, don’t panic about your ex coming back into your life. 🙂

Weddings are a time of celebration with a focus on the future – the future life that the couple will create together. In contrast to this, you have someone ‘from the past’ showing you photos (which capture past moments).

Your wedding acts as powerful marker of time in the narrative of your life. There’s a sense that all your experiences (including those that involved your ex-boyfriend) helped bring you to that culminating moment.

Getting married is an initiation. A public ritual that celebrates your change in status. You are now at a life stage when you look back from a mature perspective and see things differently.

Who were you when you were dating your ex? In what ways have you grown since then? How do these past experiences inform your future? Where would you like to go from here?



weight of the past

Vanity by John William Waterhouse (courtesy Peter Nahum at The Leicester Galleries)

Vanity by John William Waterhouse (courtesy Peter Nahum at The Leicester Galleries)



I’m back at high school but as a grown woman – and about 30 kg lighter than I am now. I’m in class, sitting next to a girl I went to high school with. 


I always wanted to be this girl’s friend but she treated me so badly that it still scars me to this day.  This girl was smart, popular and the school captain but nobody realised how much of a bully she could be until school had finished. Now her school friends are no longer friends with her.  Back to the dream though…


We are in class, being taught by my TAFE teacher (who has taught me for the last 2 years) and who is my favourite teacher.  It’s the last day of school. This girl and I have lunch together because there aren’t many people at school today.  I look good and I know it. 


I am trying to avoid my boyfriend from grade nine (whom I met up with again last year and had a relationship with for a few months).  In my life right now, I am still trying to avoid him as he can’t let go of the relationship and constantly texts me etc.

He’s not there though; another group of high school boys is sitting where he used to be.  I breathe a sigh of relief because I don’t want any drama although I kind of wish he was there because I look awesome in my jeans and white shirt (a classic look in my book).


And that’s the end of the dream.




There’s a recurring theme of seeking approval in your dream but thanks to the flexibility of the space/time continuum in dreamland, your younger school self is blessed with the wisdom of your current years.


Although, you know this girl is a bitch, you want her to want to be your friend. Although, you’re done with your grade nine boyfriend, you still want him to want you. So even though you now know these people aren’t good for you, a part of you – your younger insecure high school self – still seeks their approval.


Closely tied to this need for approval is your desire to lose weight. The insecurity you felt in high school is similar to the insecurity you now feel about your appearance. Healing that insecure high school part of yourself will help you reach your current health and fitness goals.


Do something to release the past: For example, light a candle and write a letter to the popular girl and to your grade nine boyfriend. Pour all your anger, hurt and mocking into those letters and then *in a non-flammable area* use the candle to burn the letters. As the letters go up in flames, visualise all the negative emotions going up in smoke.


Remember to appreciate all you’ve learnt since high school. You can recognise people of true value (such as your TAFE teacher) and you don’t need the approval of others to know that you are awesome. And, most importantly, you’ve survived the 80s revival with your timeless sense of style intact.